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Getting to Know Me

In Family, Friends, Mental Well-being, Relationships on September 25, 2013 at 2:57 am

I recently had a moment where I was speaking to someone (this someone shall remain nameless and I’m sorry because I know there’s no fun in that). Back to the story, in the middle of my conversation I thought to myself “You don’t know me at all…” I was a little confused and irritated by this and I wanted to help them to understand but then I realized that I’m not sure if I even know myself fully. I don’t want to get all existentialistic on you, but I’m saying this in the sense that although I have had the awesome experience of having a consistent personality (a lot is to be said about that) my attitude, ideas, tolerance, and tastes have changed over the years. As I get older, I can only imagine that life’s interesting experiences will further mold me and I am up for that experience. I’ll just remember to be as patient with everyone else as I am with myself!

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Would You Hang Out With Yourself?

In Family, Friends, Relationships on February 27, 2013 at 6:28 pm

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2012 Baggage Claim

In Family, Friends, Relationships on February 11, 2013 at 6:30 pm

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Baggage. Physical or emotional, we all have it. Some more than others. And either way, I’m definitely not the one to judge. Past experiences have led me to have baggage and that baggage has played a large role my personal development throughout the years. Now that I’m older, I realize that my baggage is without a doubt an important part of me, but it does not have to define who I am and who I will be in the future. I looked back on my 2012 and thought about all of the negative things that happened like identity theft, drama in my personal life, breakup with my ex, etc. and I found myself angered with the past, how I had allowed things to happen to me, and my reaction or the lack thereof. Then I thought about all of the positive things that happened like graduating with my Master’s Certification in Health Communication, getting a new car, moving into a new home, and strengthening friendships with other positive like-minded people and I realized that I’m in such a better place mentally and emotionally. So, I’ve decided to check the 2012 baggage and move forward with the positive things that have strengthened my character and motivated me to find happiness.

Hopefully, you can find the strength to check your baggage and make the necessary changes in your life to become a happier person too!

Be well,

C

Ready For The Weekend

In Friends, Relationships on September 14, 2012 at 3:31 pm

Ready For The Weekend

Make the most of your weekend! lol

Navigating Friendships

In Culture, Family, Friends, Relationships on September 6, 2012 at 4:25 am

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When I was in my late teens and early twenties I had tons of “friends.” I effortlessly attended every party, made every birthday dinner, and I played the figurative sad violin at any of my friend’s pity parties that needed me with little notice (even at 3am). Now, a few years later and as I sit & balance all of life’s complexities, I find myself fighting to have the time to even have a quick dinner with friends. And in the end we schedule and reschedule in hopes that a bigger event will come along and oblige us to meet. But instead the “big” event ends up being a I-haven’t-seen-you-in-forever dinner. Well, at least that brings us together with our friends. Right? Even with this being so I’ve decided today to take a more active approach to my social life and make more time for my friends and family. Socialization is a large part of personal growth (I’ll expand on this at a later date). Nevertheless, I’ll keep you guys posted on my progress!

R.I.P. Diamond the Dog

In Family, Friends, Relationships on June 12, 2012 at 5:30 pm

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If you’re not a pet lover you may not understand or appreciate this post. If you are, you will understand my sadness for the loss of a member of my family. Yesterday night, our family’s dog Diamond passed away after 16 years. I cannot begin to recount the many memories of Diamond, ranging from her literally jumping through a window when she thought my little brother was being attacked (he was wrestling with his friends 2 backyards away from ours smh) to her staying up late with me countless times with a look on her face as if to say “You better not go to sleep. You have to finish this homework.”

Over the years I have come to learn that the love from a pet is so unconditional and humans can stand to learn from their patience, loyalty and unsolicited comical abilities. Diamond will surely be missed.

Keep Calm and Carry On

In Culture, Friends, Relationships, Work on June 4, 2012 at 2:41 pm

Be Calm and Carry On

Contrary to your own beliefs you are not in control of everything so stop worrying yourself like you are! Whenever you feel anxious about a situation try repeating (aloud) to yourself “I’m am not in control of everything.” I joke with my friends that it’s important to act sane when you really aren’t but the truth is the more you practice being calm you will actually become calm. I mean, what fun is it to erratically scream irrationally anyway? Being irate, antsy, and irritated takes precious time away from you being happy and enjoying your relationships (friends or romantic). So keep calm and carry on.*

*FYI the phrase “Keep calm and carry on” was a popularized saying in the 1940s which was originally coined by the British government. Nonetheless, it’s an awesome and very applicable saying in our times.

Friendship

In Family, Friends on May 21, 2012 at 2:44 pm

Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: “What! You too? I thought I was the only one.

― C.S. Lewis

FRIENDS- How Many of us REALLY Have them?

In Family, Friends, Uncategorized on June 14, 2010 at 2:07 am

If you’re extremely in the know like me you’re linked in with LinkedN, your face is stuck to Facebook, and you are more than likely working up carpal tunnel on Twitter. This means that you have also witnessed endless rants between “bffs” and hundreds of postings with something to the effect of “chilling with my homie, I love you man!” Seems like everyone has hundreds or even thousands of “friends,” or have disillusioned themselves into believing that a true friend is someone who accepts a request or follows you back.  I’m convinced it’s the latter of the two.  Meanwhile, I stay comfy with my small circle of friends and my mediocre amount of associates. I have come to realize that I don’t need a plethora of platonic relationships or a few frenemies to justify my social status. This revelation comes with me having had more downs than ups in the past with people who I have sincerely thought reciprocated my friendship without ulterior motives. In these instances time proved my judgment wrong. I happily moved on from these experiences, refusing to call them mistakes- instead lessons.

This is why I am finding it increasingly necessary for people to step back and analyze the people who they hold in such high esteem. Realizing that they are a reflection of the company they keep in some form and that they should share the minute and major details of their lives with people who are genuine friends. Also ending their obsession with maintaining the façade of having hundreds of adoring friends. Popularity contests can stay in high school. Do as I did, analyze and recognize your inner circle. Find out who is truly a friend for life versus a friend of convenience. A friend for life should be honest, caring, positive, supportive and all of the other good adjectives. Whereas, a friend of convenience is someone who conveniently suits one mold or activity. For example, you may only go shopping  with one person. You may enjoy going to bars and parties with three others. You may even get in a lively brunch date with a few. However, when you feel your world is crashing down on you, your first thought will not be to turn to your shopping buddy, party animals or your brunch dates. You will want to seek solace and find encouraging advice in a true friend. Just remember that this will be pretty hard to do if you have surrounded yourself by make-believe.

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